I know where I belong...

Almost 3 years since last post, a long time. I would not say I was too busy not to write, it is just that mental block. And ya I was enjoying life too much except last 8 months. I moved to Pune in July 2012, Mukt born in Aug 2012 and then it was roller-coaster life in Pune on both fronts, personal as well as professional.

Then you know human nature hits me, we never satisfied what we have and always wants more. It was long time dream to go to USA for job and finally got the visa for it in Aug 2014.

Don't want to write negative things here hence not going into details what happened after we arrived in US but short story is not enjoying as much as I thought. My manager said below words while I was leaving India "You will not enjoy what are you able to enjoying here with your current salary. Life is not rosy there (USA) as it seems from here (India)." Now I am completely agree with him.....

I written a blog about my USA exp when I visited 1st time.. Now I know where I belong...

Hard Winter and hardly any winter... Consulting and Full time... Be ready to move all over the country and choose city on your own... Things you get in just a $ and Things you can't get in a ₹... Too short / Too long days and same days throughout a year... Much needed insurance and much needed cash... Credit and Relations... Carpets and Marbles... Sunday for Swami and Sunday for movies... Hardly anyone standing in trains and hardly you will get a seat in trains...  Planned outings and unplanned parties.... pre-owned cars and new bikes... 25 MBPS uninterrupted speed and 2 MBPS interrupted speed... No electricity cut outs and no week without electricity cut outs... Facebook/skype calls and family gatherings... You-tube shows and cable channels... Almost non exist public transport and over crowded public transports... Week long doctor appointments and long queue at clinics... 

Now I know where I belongs..... May be story would be different with out family... with out kids... who knows... life is bitch and life is beautiful... you know what future holds for you and that's the scary part... that's the beauty of life too... 

Some Thoughts... at end... at start.... – II

I left JP Morgan on Friday and joining Barclays in Pune. It will be my fourth job and again I am changing the city. Each time I change the job, I have changed city also. I wish it would some new city but I am happy that it is Pune, one of my favorite city after Ahemdabad and Surat. :) ...

When I left Persistent three years back, I was sad, very sad. Apart from good company, I left good city, and bunch of life time friends.  Here is the link of that time, http://anipateldreams.blogspot.in/2009/08/some-thoughts-at-end-at-start.html

When I took bus last time from JP Morgan, I feel void but not sad or happy feelings. It’s like, ok one chapter of life finish and starts a new chapter; that’s it. Yes, I enjoyed working in JP Morgan in first year because it was too hectic and I had no time to think anything else.  Last one and half years are more of frustrations and full of complaints. I never like people who complaints but I did the same in last year so you know it changed me in sad way. Anyways let’s not discuss those things, it’s past now. I want to remember only good things, I had worked with some wonderful people and hope to see you them again.

Ya, one thing I must say that I got the very good respect from all people with whom I worked and that matters most then any other things, you know I sounds like oldies, but I am inspired from Rahul Dravid.

Let’s see how life goes in Pune and Barclays. I hope that I continue with blog now as I don’t have to spend 3 to 4 hours on commuting now. :) 

જુન, વરસાદ અને મુંબઈ...

આ ભીની ભીની હવા મુંબઈની..... ન્હાયા પછી તરત જ ચામડી પર આવી જતી ચીકાશ.... તડકા સાથે સંતાકુકડી રમતા વાદળો...  ૨ કલાકનો ટ્રાફિક ઓફીસ સુધીનો જે છે ૪૦ મિનીટના રસ્તો... ઓફીસ પહોંચતા સુધીમાં પોતું બની જતો રૂમાલ...
આવ રે વરસાદ... જલ્દી આવ હવે તું....

ये गीली गीली सी हवा मुंबई की.... नहाने के बाद तुरंत ही चमड़ी पे आ जाती चिकाश... धुप के साथ छुपा-छुपी खेलते बादल...  2 घंटे का ट्राफिक ऑफिस तक जो है 40 मिनिट का रास्ता... ऑफिस पहोंचने तक पोछा  हो जाता रुमाल...
आ रे बारिश... अब जल्दी आ तू.....

year review..... 2011....

You must be thinking review 2011 before end but if nothing happened in 50 weeks, nothing is going to change in 2 weeks. yup, Its been a year since I came back from successful trip of USA and it is complete waste; I did nothing apart from going office and completing day 2 day work. It is wasted professionally. Last year I was busy in one assignment and got credit too. This year, no important assignment and not even blogging :). I had set few goals at the start of year (as always.. by tradition...) and when I checked it today, not a single one accomplish. 

anyways.... feeling good after reading Anupam's gtalk status: Don't feel bad. Lots of people have no talent...

another complete waste is book 'The witch of Portobello By Paulo Coelho', at least for me. It keeps talking about searching your reason for life, your mission on the earth and blah blah... I did try that few years back and failed miserably. Book says the do the things that you love, that you enjoy most. Well, I enjoy cricket, movies and reading but I am not good in any of these that I can earn decent money for living hence.. anyways, I like few quotes from book and sharing with you. Enjoy....

• No one lights a lamp in order to hide it behind the door: the purpose of light is to create more light, to open people's eyes, to reveal the marvels around.
• Pity those who seek for shepherds, instead of longing for freedom! An encounter with the superior energy is open to anyone, but remains far from those who shift responsibility onto others.
• Because all my life I've learned to suffer in silence.
• Christ said: "Come unto me all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." Church has changed those words to read: "Come unto me all ye who follow our rules, and the let the heavy laden go hang!" Jesus might have replied: 'My Child, I've been excluded too. It's a very long time since they've allowed me in there.'
• 'when I dance, I'm a free woman, or, rather, a free spirit who can travel through the universe, contemplate the present, diving the future, and be transformed into pure energy. And that gives me enormous pleasure, a joy that always goes far beyond everything I've experienced or will experience in my lifetime.'
• I came in search of a meaning for my life, because, at present, its only meaning is my son and I'm afraid I might end up destroying him, either by being over-protective or by projecting onto him the dreams I've never managed to realise.
• 'Do you know what the word "ecstasy" means? It comes from the Greek and means, "to stand outside yourself".
• I dance whenever I can, but music only exists because the pauses exist. When I'm doing something, I feel complete, but no one can keep active 24 hours a day. As soon as I stop, I feel there's something lacking. You've often said to me that I'm a naturally restless person, but I didn't choose to be that way. I'd like to sit here quietly, watching television, but I can't. My brain won't stop. Sometimes, I think I'm going mad.
• When I die, bury me standing, because I've spent all my life on my knees!'

and its from me: New year is on horizon and so the new hope....  :)

Morning that is not coming... :( ...

Everyone sees dream, dream of perfect beginning... I am dreaming of perfect beginning of day since I started job.... I was lean boy during college days, well.. not lean but yes, average body.. neither lean nor fat n it's better then lean, right? :) .... anyways, ones my professional life started, I fell into same software professionals category who spent long hours at office, at chair n less outside, less gym... less physical activity... n then its bound to happen.... :( ..... 

Three years back, My doctor friend asked me to check my cholesterol level and as he guess, it was on higher side and he advised me to start jogging/walking 3 km per day.... since then I am dreaming of wake up early at 6 am and go for running.... I promised him for 3 months n its been 3 years now... :( .... 

Last year, Hetsi born and as a sports lover, I would like if she makes career in some sports... n then I promised myself that I play with her.... now she is 16 months old n very active.... too active for me... :( ......

Yesterday I was desperate for today's perfect morning... preparing myself... that I will wake up today at 6 am.. go for walk n then do yoga at home... I even bought honey (someone told me it burns more calories if you take it with warm water in morning), oat (fiber food) and new shoes. and then then....

I got one issue at 8 pm and stuck in office till 11:30 pm, reached home at midnight... Today I woke up at 8 am... :( ... some dreams are to good to be real..... 

and when you live at Andheri station... it's not about choice between skip dinner or not... it's about choice between McDonald and vada-pav :) .... n damn... McDonald opens from 6am morning to 1am night... n I took two mac-veggie after I reached home midnight....

Where I belong.......

Thanks Giving and Diwali... Cheese Pizza and Butter Roti... Great Breads but dull sandwich and Not so good breads but spicy vada-pav... -5c winter and 18c winter... 1-month long colorful fall season and 5 day single color fall season... Clean / Clear / Wider roads and Crowd / Narrow roads... Friendly Greetings to Everyone and Warmly Ram-Ram only to close friends... Thanks for each n every small favour and Taken for granted even for bigger things... 8 to 5 working hours and 10 to 10 working hours... 10 minutes quick alone lunch at desk and 1 long hour group lunch at canteen... Father goes to school to pick kids and Mother works from Morning to Night... White and Black and Brown People................

All these differences I enjoyed in last 2 months.... I worked in office alone (team mates worked from home) on Diwali weekend and enjoying leave today on Thanks giving day.

Being an software engineer, I have an option to choose city n country and often asked why I am in Mumbai and not in USA/UK. and now I have seen USA... I am not sure life would be different for me here.

Surely living standard of life is better in USA and many more things which I enjoyed here (like NYC city, Casino at Atlantic city, fall colors, much more options in beer, cheese filled pizza, snow and many more) are not possible in India but then it asks for many sacrifices too, specially social life is completely different here. You have to leave behind your relatives, close friends, favourite hangout places, spice food, not-so-social etiquette and many more things which are near your hearts. But yes, I would definitely like to enjoy my bachelor life here but...aah... that's no longer story now and I am even happy with my life in India.

I enjoyed my stay here and I am enjoying life in India too....  There are attractions and dreams at both places and both place asks to leave few things behind.... I am not sure where I belong too.... and where I will enjoy more...

નુતન વર્ષાભિનંદન....

સૌને દિવાળીની હાર્દિક શુભેચ્છાઓ અને નવા વર્ષના સાલ મુબારક....

અમારા માટે તો જો કે દિવાળી દિવાળી રહી નથી, અરે ના ના... મેં કોઈ દેવાળું નથી ફૂંક્યું. હજી મારી નોકરી સલામત છે અને એ સલામત રહે માટે રોજ ૧૨-૧૪ કલાક કામ કરું છું, શનિ-રવિનાં  પણ... હમણાં હમણાં મેં મારા પરમ મિત્ર આળસ જોડે દુશ્મની કરીને પરમ દુશ્મન મહેનત જોડે દોસ્તી કરવાની કોશીશ કરી છે અને કહેવું પડશે કે દિવસો  સારા નથી જઈ રહ્યા, એટલે જ કહે છે કે, જે તમારા સ્વભાવમાં ના હોય એ કામ ના કરવા જોઈએ.

મેં મલ્ટી-ટાસ્કીંગ એટલે કે એક સાથે ઘણા બધા કામ કરવાની કોશિશ કરું છું, ઓફીસના કામ સિવાય રોજના કામ-કાજ પણ. કહેવું પડશે કે ભૂલો વધારે થઇ રહી છે એમાં, મહેનત કોઈ મદદ કરતું નથી મને. સોમવારે ચાનાં વાસણ ધોવાના રહી ગયા, મંગળવારે ઓફિસનું કાર્ડ ભૂલી ગયો (પહેલી વાર ૫ વર્ષમાં, લોકો છાશવારે ભૂલતા હોય છે પણ.....), બુધવારે સેલફોન ભૂલી ગયો, ગુરુવારે ઈસ્ત્રી કરતા કરતા ચા બનાવતો હતો અને ચા ઊભરાઈને બહાર આવી ગયી. શુક્રવારે થોડી મદદ આળસની લીધી અને કંઈ ના ભૂલ્યો, જુના દોસ્તો એ જુના દોસ્તો. જો કે ઓફીસમાં મહેનતની દોસ્તી થોડી કામ આવી રહી છે.

અને આમ પણ નવું વર્ષ આવે છે કાલે કંઈક તો સંકલ્પ તો લેવો પડશે ને, અહી અમેરિકામાં નવા વર્ષ જેવું કંઈક લાગે. થોડાક રિતી-રીવાજો તો પાળવા પડે ને!!! એટલે અમે મહેનત જોડે દોસ્તી કરવાનો સંકલ્પ લેવાનું નક્કી કર્યું છે અને તૈયારી આ અઠવાડિયાથી કરી હતી, આળસ થોડો નારાજ થઇ ગયો છે પણ એને મનાવતાં વાર નહિ લાગે, એ તો અમારી નસ-નસમાં દોડે છે.

ચાલો ત્યારે, ચા પછી ઉભરાવાની તૈયારીમાં છે....

સૌને સાલ મુબારક.....

Courage...... and IT.....

Courage, it is tricky word, especially in software industry. Usually In real word, it defines you, defines your life, defines you character. The more courageous you are the more fruitful life you have. However, in the software industry, the more courageous you are, more n more n more work you have and that work is fruitful or not, aah that depends on luck, no guarantee for that. Only guarantee is that tons of work is following courageous people here.

So why people show courage here, for money? I don’t think so.

It is easy to delegate work to other and leave early (well, leaving on time is count as leaving early here), it is easy to say that it is not my issue and don’t care about it. But it will heart you inside (if you know that you can solve it better way or faster). It would be hard for you to sleep well.

When issue arrives, you will say, I will do it and that's the courage. And then…  You will be in office before every one arrives, you will be last one in office to leave and you will be working during weekends too. Your manager will see you first whenever issue occurs; your team-mates will see you for resolutions. People will respect you more for what you are doing and and and… expect you to do more n more n more…. And your family, they will miss you surely.

Then why people show courage!!!! Courage comes from your inner-self. Here courage brings lots of work and responsibilities but it brings honor too. More than honor, self-respect is why people show courage.  A feeling when you solved difficult/complex issue is not less than winning a cricket match or wining a race. It excites you and give you thrill to solve more complex things. Obviously it is slow process compare to other thrilling experiences, it is more like Chess. Mental strength is what asks this industry.

For me being courageous is pride thing and I will honor person who show courage to resolve each n every issue occurs although he is poor social life. And I salute the person who do both very well. It is tough here to having good social life with being courageous.  It is tougher to be courageous….

If it's free... it's not worth it... general perception....

Taken from one of the forwarded mail.... not sure it's true or not ... but sounds true... :) ...

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In Washington DC, at a Metro Station, on a cold January morning in 2007, this man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, approximately 2,000 people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After about 3 minutes, a middle-aged man noticed that there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds, and then he hurried on to meet his schedule.

About 4 minutes later:

The violinist received his first dollar. A woman threw money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

At 6 minutes:

A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

At 10 minutes:

A 3-year old boy stopped, but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head the whole time. This action was repeated by several other children, but every parent - without exception - forced their children to move on quickly.

At 45 minutes:

The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.

After 1 hour:

He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed and no one applauded. There was no recognition at all.

No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a Stradivarius violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before, Joshua Bell sold-out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100 each to sit and listen to him play the same music.

This is a true story. Joshua Bell, playing incognito in the DC Metro Station, was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people's priorities.

This experiment raised several questions:
*In a common-place environment, at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty?

*If so, do we stop to appreciate it?
*Do we recognise talent in an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made . . .

How many other free things are we missing as we rush through life?

Reporting USA....

I am stealing time here to write for blog…. Seriously… not getting enough time to share my US experience…… and no funny/odd things happened to me to share… ya. Ya.. I know you all disappointed by reading this but its true… :) ……

Flight was more than comfortable and Airport procedure finished just in 10-15 minutes at both airports; it may be business class tkt effect, no queues at all. Ya ya… At all counter, they asked for my passport just to verify that I am same guy who traveling in business class as I m not looking at all business class traveler. I also got to know that ones I boarded, all seats were filled either by Aged Indians or Foreigners….. So but obvious they doubting me for stealing ticket. Anyways, I enjoyed flight as it was my 1st one (Yup, I never traveled in domestic flight even and forget USA, I haven’t been to Nepal where visa is not required) and I specifically asked for window ticket and got that. It was wonderful experience. And I have no clue how much I eat/drink/sleep during 18 hours flight including 2 hours break at Brussels. Brussels airport is surrounded by greenery and it has nice views.

And now I am enjoying USA very much except work loadL. Weather is great here (till now). It is around 25, neither hot nor cold. My office and hotel is in village kind of place so not much traffic here and most of the bungalows having big gardens at all place.

You know, I drove car on 1st day itself (obviously Amar sits beside me and driving back seat driver). From 3rd day I am driving on my own to office, yuppie….. Left hand driving doesn’t cause me much problem (may be I m leftie and it helped). But lane shifting is hell here; you need to turn neck before change the lane. Oops… why don’t it is enough to check in mirror n change like India!!! Till date, only 1 honk occurred to me though and that too on 1st day only and I haven’t honked anyone yet in 6 days, Strange!!!

1 more thing, here no U-turns... hardly you will find roads where you can take U-turns and we were on ride on Sunday courtesy Google maps… yes, can you believe!!! Google maps show KFC at wrong place & wrong route & our 3 miles drive became 30 miles. We were on I-80 by mistake and it is tough here, Inter-State highways… aah.. No exit comes till 15 miles and ahh... we reached one village after exit. It was like horror movie, at 8 pm, you don’t find single person outside and it was like deserted; virana kind of place. Luckily we spotted one girl in car in parking lot n she showed us the way to go back. So conclusion, Driving is no fun here unless you are aware of roads. Thinking to Buy GPS but I doubt on it as Google maps did the mistakes!!!!!!

Apart from that, all work work n work… even 1st weekend I spent in hotel and checking logs n mails n db entries… aah…… but anyways, it is because of workload only, I am here so… I m cool…. :)  ….

Ya… you will not find tub in washroom here…. It's all tissue paper….. yukk…

And I will upload pics soon.... keep visiting......

Finalllyyyyy...... Flying......

Finally, After doing sincere copy-paste for more than 5 years, finally company is ready to spend some money on me and sending me on site. yup, I am flying USA next week and that's the reason of no blogs since few days. I was busy with office work n more busy with visa n travel work and right now busiest in playing with my daughter, Hetsi.  aah.... why this time when Hetsi is just 11 months old... when manager asked me that r u ready? and that time only one thing in my mind, should I go and leave Hetsi's 1st birthday?? but then I am waited for this for 5 years... I feel its like stigma to my career.... each of my friends from masters went on site at least ones..... :( .... and then, Thanks to modern technology, video chat, I decided yes.... I will go and I am flying... and wait is finally paid off... Company is giving me business class tkt and car at USA... yuppeeee....

Place is Whippany, NJ... Near New York and Niagara.... so that's in plan. Bungee jumping also in the list and many other things.... Let's see how it goes....

Definitely share my experience here, will try to write humor way..

Chalo.. cya..... Hetsi is awake now..

Andheri Live.....

Too busy at office... working hours of last week, Mon:11AM to 11:10PM, Tue:9AM to 11:10PM, Wed: 9AM to 12PM, Thurs:9AM to 9:30PM, Fri: 9AM to 8:30PM.... so nothing comes to mind to write except project issues..... so here... pics taken during bus ride...

 Bridge at Andheri East-West flyover..... this bridge is in constructions since year and half... and still 20% completed... and our manager is shouting for missing one week deadline... :( .....

Traffic at Andheri East, Nr. Western Express highway... 15 minutes journey of nights turns into 45 minutes journey during day... :( ... n you can't do anything about it.....

And today's youngsters says many times that they are living on the age..... I don't believe them... below pics prove that.... 

This is what I called REALLY LIVING ON THE AGE.... :) ... taken on Andheri-Jogeshwari Western Express highway....

See ya.... Enjoy Life....

The 10 Things...

One more tag.... and first I thought it would be difficult for me, to write things about me but ones I start writing... it keeps flowing.... many will find this write about me is girly thing but... I love to write about myself so... may be not everyone likes to read about me but still it is for the Shomoita who tagged me and given award for honesty... so it is for you chhoti...

1. I m very short tempered person. U can ask Rinku... :) .... It is not that I temper with others only. I m usually angry on myself too when I do some mistakes... like I forgot novel in train last week n I cursed myself for two days. How could I forgot!!!!! I want to improve on that but then I think if I loss my short-temperaments, I will loss my aggressions-arrogance... and I feel aggressions are needed in life...
2. I am very punctual about timings. I am traveling since I was 15, almost 13 years now and I never missed any single train or bus. I am punctual about office timings, meetings too... :) .... and I feel very irritated when people do not value time and do not come on time after promised.
3. About super power, I want very very sharp memory. I would like to remember each n everything, book, movies, project issues, names, news...... I am very bad at remembering names... :( .....
4. I like movies... soooooooo muuuuccchhhh. I feel like I am the part of the movie, relate myself with any of the character I like... mostly Hero though... :) .... I don't like any disturbance while watching n I do not talk while watching movie. Some milestones... watched 4 movies on the trot in cinema.. 12 to 3, 3 to 6, 6 to 9, 9 to 12 and that too alone.... watched 11 movies over the weekend (Sat-Sun) last year.... and  ya, I got tears many times while watching sad scenes... specially Amirkhan movies.... and ya, I like to direct movie one day, preferably with my own script.
5. I love reading... whenever I visit libraries.. I feel like lets sit there whole day n read all the books of library at one shot only. Earlier English was the barrier  . I decided to read 50 books this year, so far finished 21.....
6. I hate shopping.... I hardly shop.. ones in 6 month. I still don't understand how people spend so much money on clothes, shoes, watches n god knows what. Since I gained weight too much (read last 4 years), I am never interested to buy clothes for me... :( ....
7. I found girls sexy who drives the car or wears the business formals. I found them independent. I already asked my wife to learn car driving... :) ...
8. I want to run... run like Forest Gump (movie).... to free from all cobwebs around life... but.. due to health problems stamina, I can not run more than 10 Min's now.... :( .. earlier I used to run for 30-40 Min's in gym....
9. I believe RELIGION is most overrated thing in world. World would be more peaceful without religion. Also I do not believe in Communism as Nature does not give equal power to each creature. I believe in Capitalism, where Stronger will be the survivor and winner. Power (any kind of power, knowledge, intelligence, even beauty) must be respected. Although I believe in equal opportunities. 
10. When I was in school, I want to be an Architect only. Somehow It didn't happen and now I am software engineer. I am doing good in IT, I am still thinking .... gosh.. I would be architect... I love buildings n homes.... whenever I see new building/home, I always think about it's structure, plan and what improvements could be done...

I don't know whom to tag as apart from Alpesh sir (who obviously not interested in write about himself), none of my real friends writes anything... lets tagged to few follower... who loves to write.. Urvashi and Ramesh (not sure Ramesh would write this as he always post witty humors :) ) ... no one else comes in mind...

Random Thoughts....

Hmmmmmmm...... What to write... nothing comes in my mind or heart or soul.. or whatever it is.... still I want to write something...... 

aah.... rain.. it is raining so heavily n continuously since last few weeks that my heart is crying for sunshine... full sunshine... rain makes me sick.. depress.... ya, irritating... yes, I hate rains n most my friends knew this... n it is contradictory to me as I am nature lover too.... ohh I am!!!! I like mountains n trekking excites me more than anything.... but rains..... :( ...

I am reading 'Eleven Minutes' of  Paulo Coelho..... Story is nice n fast one... but still it makes me sad or to be precisely, it makes me thinking some times... story is keep asking about the meaning of life... destiny of life.... aah... I tried many times to get the true or real answer of these questions and like difficult questions of exams, never get the correct answers.... so I gave up... I accepted that it is my destiny to work as software engineer n not as cricketer or architect n I destined to constant travel.... not the filmy ones.. but weekly up-down to surat-mumbai.... n whatever life is giving me... someone told me.. you r not living life... life is living you... ya.. true but then... how many of you living life? 

I was never thought I would be in pune/mumbai for job someday.. I was never thought I would be MCA from prestigious college like L.D. Eng.....  I was never thought I would screwed up in 12th Standard.... Life has always some other plans for me......

What about you friends? have you planned n are you living those plans?

I ask these questions to one my friends... n he said.... you should not read Paulo Coelho anymore.... :) ...

He never read anything and he is far more happy for his current life than I am.... n still I knew, He is not doing justice to his talents....

The more you know, The more you read, The more you think.... The more you sad/depress/unsatisfied...

and that's why most of the critics/philosophers are not happy with their life.. with their world.. with real world...

Once upon a time at Traffic Signal

Alarm rings.... 8 0'clock...... He wake up, brushing teeth, taking bath, getting ready and leaving his room of chawl at 8:30. He starts walking towards main road. Main road is 15 minutes away from the chawl. There is a big traffic signal at main road. He come there at 8:45 and go to one tea stall at signal. He orders tea and wait there for start of the signals.

Signal starts daily at sharp 9. Traffic Policeman is coming at 8:50-8:55. First Traffic policeman comes near tea stall to start the signal. After he switch on the signals, he too takes tea at the same stall. 

He saw the traffic policeman very near by. and then he starts observing him. and He does that for two long hours. There are many other thing happens at signal but he has set his focal point to traffic policemen only. Traffic policeman is very efficient to handle the traffic. He manages the traffic such way that there is no jam at his signal. He got the award for that from the city police commissioner. Like inspection, he see how traffic policemen handles the traffic, gives more time to peak side traffic for signal. After observing him for long time, he concludes that traffic policemen is really good at handling traffic. 

At 11, He goes to his office. At 2, He again come back to signal, eat some snacks there only by standing and watching the traffic policeman's activity.

At 7, He leave the office and come back at Signal again. Traffic is at peak as everyone in the city is in hurry to reach the home and spend time with their near and dear ones. But not him, he is in no hurry. He still watching the same traffic policeman.

At 9:30,  Traffic slow down and it is time to stop the signal. Traffic policeman stops signal and then start to walk towards his home. He following him. Traffic policeman does not know that. Traffic policeman reach home at 10:10. Traffic policeman is living in government quarter. He knows the address of Traffic policeman. He got his quarter number from the panwala near quarters. After traffic policeman is enter the quarters, he starts back journey to his chawl. He reach his chawl at 11 and go to sleep.

That's his daily routine of almost a year, to be precise 355 days. He is alone. He is following this traffic policeman for 355 days. No one knows his motive. Neither any one noticed nor any one interested in his activity. He looks very ordinary people and there are many people like him at signal.

But Tomorrow will be different for him and for traffic policeman too. He decided to kill the traffic policeman. He is preparing this for last 355 days. He had bought one revolver with silencer from his chawl's gunda few days back. and learned how to use it.

Days starts normally as usual. But nothing is normal for him today. He is keep thinking what happened year ago. His wife was pregnant and she was having labor pain at 9 only. He called rickshaw and want to go near by hospital. For hospital, they have to cross the signal and then 10-15 mins drive. They started at 9:15 but... stuck with the traffic jam at signal around 9:30. The traffic policeman was not in sight there. May be he was not there at all. May be he was at leave. Whatever it was, They stuck there for 30 mins and then his wife died in the rickshaw only without seeing hospital gate.

He has suddenly come out of thought and see the traffic policeman at signal. He believes that traffic policeman is the culprit of his wife's death. Had he was at the signal year ago, his wife would be alive and he would be proud father of one year old children. but.....

Morning and noon time is normal and routine. He has decided he would kill him at night, when he about to reach his home.

At 7, he has reached at signal but what he saw. Again there is traffic jam and thousands of thought crossed his mind. Has the traffic policeman got the idea? has anyone complained that he is watching him since 355 days? but that should not happen. He hasn't tell anyone about it. He cut off himself from whole world and just observing traffic policeman. and no one ever asked him why he is doing that? then what happened? he asked the tea-wala about traffic policeman and tea-wala said 'he must be on leave today. he hasn't come after lunch and that's why there is traffic jam.'

He starts walking towards the quarters. His heart is pumping fast. He panicked that may be traffic policemen noticed him silently all these days and he knew about his motive. He go straight to traffic policeman quarter and what he see? 

Traffic policeman is celebrating his daughter's birthday. Wall decorated with ribbons '1st Happy Birthday to Vaidehi'....

The Guys' Rules.....

Disclaimer: It is forwarded mail and published with intend to fun and nice humor. Girls please don't take seriously, Anyway it is not going to work with you.

The Guys' Rules­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­

At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down Finally , the guys' side of the story. ( I must admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear "the rules" From the female side.

Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are our rules!
Please note.. these are all numbered "1" ON PURPOSE!
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1. Men are NOT mind readers.

1. Shopping is NOT a sport.
And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
 
1. Crying is emotional blackmail.
 
1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just come to the point and say it directly!!
 
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question. ‘may be’, ‘perhaps’ and ‘whatever’, such answers don’t serve any purpose.
 
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
 
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a Problem. don’t force us to drag you to a doctor.
See a doctor yourself.
 
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.
In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days
 
1. If you are no heroines, don’t expect us to act like heroes.
 
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.
Don't ask us.
 
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one
 
1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done.
Not both.
If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
 
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
 
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We ‘will’ act like nothings wrong.
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the argument.
 
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
 
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really …..  
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as CRICKET OR FOOTBALL.
 
1. You have enough clothes.
 
1. You have too many shoes.
 
1. I am in shape. Round is a shape!  
 
1. Thank you for reading this.  
 
1. All points are marked as point no. (1), becoz all points are equally Important.
There is no thing as More Important or less Important.

Aha... one more tag.. I am loving it.....

It is fun and it is fast one... no need to think much about while doing this post......

Ten how’s:

1. How did you get one of your scars? From an accident at the age of 12.
2. How did you celebrate your last birthday? I was at office. :( ...... Went for dinner with family during weekend.
3. How are you feeling at this moment? Fresh, Its morning time.
4. How did your night go last night? Finished novel.
5. How did you do in high school? Ok Ok.... actually screwed up in 12th...
6. How did you get the shirt you’re wearing? Bought myself.
7. How often do you see your best friend(s)? Almost every weekend.
8. How much money did you spend last month? well, If I tell, people will know me how thrifty I am, bt still let me tell, 8000 only.
9. How old do you want to be when you get married? I am already married, at 24.
10. How old will you be at your next birthday? Aah.. 29.....

Nine what’s:
1. Your mothers name? I am sure that's none of your business! but its tag so... Leelaben...
2. What did you do last weekend? Attended family function... you see I m family man now...
3. What is the most important part of your life? My daughter, Hetsi.
4. What would you rather be doing? Directing a movie or Cricketer.... or on the real note, Architecture
5. What did you last cry over? When I got my appraisal later.. just kidding.. not sure which movie but definitely It must be some touchy movie...
6. What always makes you feel better when you’re upset? I read or may be some good movie...
7. What’s the most important thing you look for in a significant other? Confident... n Aggression...
8. What are you worried about? Dad's health....
9. What did you have for breakfast? half fry at Irani hotel... testy...
 
Eight you’s:
1. Have you ever liked someone who had a girlfriend/boyfriend? Countless.... but long ago....ok..
2. Have you ever had your heartbroken? Many times... :) ... you know teenage love stories..
3. Have you ever been out of the country? Nooo.... but I want to....
4. Have you ever done something outrageously dumb? Yup......
5. Have you ever been back stabbed by a friend? Yup... during college days...
6. Have you ever had sex on the beach? Nooo.... it's distant dream....
7. Have you ever dated someone younger than you? Nope.... means 2 year difference is doesn't count here... right?
8. Have you ever read an entire book in one day? Few times. Latest being "Paralysis" by Bakshi n its awesome....
 
Seven who’s:
1. Who was the last person you saw? My roomie...
2. Who was the last person you texted? Ahh... not into this game now...
3. Who was the last person you hung out with? My daughter, Hetsi
4. Who was the last person to call you? Rinku, my wify.
5. Who did you last hug? hmmmm......
6. Who is the last person who texted you? Office friend.... may be he has free sms scheme... :) ..
7. Who was the last person you said “I love you” to? off course, my wify....
 
Six where’s:
1. Where does your best friend(s) live? Some in the same city, some in the distant city n country....
2. Where did you last go? Irani hotel for breakfast...
3. Where did you last hang out? World cup final at Jitu's (Friend) place.....
4. Where do you go to school? I went to 4 schools! All in Gujarat, Amdavad and Surat.
5. Where is your favorite place to be? Obviously Home.
6. Where did you sleep last night? In my bed. what kind of question it is!!!!!
 
Five do’s:
1. Do you think anyone likes you? Must be many.. :) ... not sure.... please tell me if u one of them....
2. Do you ever wish you were someone else? yup... many inspired me....
3. Do you know the muffin man? No!
4. Does the future scare you? No... it excites me.... specially uncertainty of Life...
5. Do your parents know about your blog? No.... my wife knows...
 
Four why’s:
1. Why are you best friends with your best friend? aah... it just happens.....
2. Why did you get into Blogging? To Write, To bore people.. To share/express my views...
3. Why did your parents give you the name you have? They must have liked it. :) I hate it thought...
4. Why are you doing this survey? hmmmm.... for fun.....

Three if’s:
1. If you could have one super power what would it be? I love to remember all thing I read just from glare...... :) ....
2. If you could go back in time and change one thing, would you? Yes, Like to get higher marks in 12th and be architect.
3. If you were stranded on a deserted island and could bring 1 thing, what would you bring? My love....

Two would-you-ever’s:
1. Would you ever get back together with any of your ex’s if they asked you? No.... I am married now.. Happily married....
2. Would you ever shave your head to save someone you love? Yup, definitely, I am anyway ready for new style always and if it helping someone, its better....

One last question:
1. Are you happy with your life right now? welll... I am too busy to think about.... work... family... movies...reading... blogging... ya, I am loving it..... that's for sure...

વરસાદ...

જયારે પણ તમે વરસાદ વિષે વાંચ્યું, સાંભળ્યું હશે ત્યારે વરસાદ સાથે સરસ, રોમાંચ, પ્રેમ, બાળપણ વગેરેની ભેળસેળ સાથેનું જ વાંચ્યું, સાંભળ્યું હશે.... પણ હકીકતમાં, તમે આ કેટલી વાર માણ્યું? કોલેજમાં હશો અથવા ગૃહિણી હશો તો થોડી વાર વધારે બાકી નોકરી/ધંધો કરતા હશો ત્યારે કેટલી વાર?

આ કૈક એવું છે કે લેખક/કવિ તમે રહેતા હો એ જગ્યાનું એવું સરસ વર્ણન કરે કે જેણે એ જગ્યા જોઈ ના હોય એને ત્યાં રેહવાનું મન થઇ જાય પણ તમે વરસોથી એ જ જગ્યાએ રહીને એવો કોઈ અનુભવ કર્યો ના હોય.... 

મોટેભાગે તો નોકરી/ધંધાવાળા માટે વરસાદ મુસીબતોનો પહાડ લઇને જ આવે છે, ખાસ કરીને મુંબઈ જેવા શહેરમાં.

પહેલાં તો તમે પગપાળા જતા હોવ તો રસ્તાની એકદમ ખૂણામાં ચાલવું પડે. રસ્તા પર પાણી ભરાયેલા હોય અને કાર-બાઈકવાળા એમની ઝડપે જતા હોય ત્યારે પાણી તમારા કપડાં સહીત ચહેરાને પણ સ્પર્શ કરી શકે છે. ખાસ કરીને તમે જે દિવસે સફેદ કપડા પહેર્યા હશે એ જ વખતે આવું થવાની શક્યતા વધારે છે. જો તમે એટલા નસીબવાળા હોવ કે એવું ના થાય તો પણ પાણી ભરાયેલું હોય અને તમે બુટ-મોંજાં પહેર્યા હોય અને પછી બુટ ભીનાં થાય એટલે મોજાં પણ ભીનાં થાય અને પછી જો જે મજા પડે ઓફીસમાં... ચપક ચપક...

રસ્તા પણ પાણી ભરાવાને લીધે પહેલેથી સાંકડા રસ્તાઓ વધારે સાંકડા થઇ જાય અને પછી જુવો ટ્રાફિકની મજા!!! જ્યાં રોજ મારે ૩૦ મિનીટ થતી હતી ઓફીસ જતાં એ જ હવે ૪૫-૫૦-૬૦ મિનીટ થઇ જાય છે, વરસાદની જ મહેરબાની તો વળી... ફાયદો એટલો કે પહેલાં હું બસમાં બૂકના ૨૦-૩૦ પાનાં વાંચતો હતો, હવે એ પણ ૪૫-૫૦-૬૦ થઇ જાય છે. ...  :) ....

આટલું થયા પછી ભીનાં કપડે ઓફીસ પહોંચો એટલે પછી ઓફીસમાં એસીમાં એન્ટાર્કટીકામાં બેઠા હો એવું લાગે.

ગૃહિણીઓને પણ પૂછો કે કપડાં સુકાવાની કેટલી માથાકૂટ થાય છે, ક્યારેક વરસાદમાં મુંબઈમાં કોઈના મહેમાન થશો ત્યારે તેમનાં ડ્રોઈંગરૂમમાં જ તમને ગંજી-જાંગીયા લટકતાં દેખાશે.

મોટેભાગે વરસાદ આખો દિવસ નહિ આવે પણ જયારે તમારે અગત્યના કામ માટે બહાર જવું હશે ત્યારે જ તમને ભીનો કરવા માટે આવશે, આવો તો મારો નહિ પણ ઘણાનો અનુભવ હશે...

તો ભાઈઓ કેહવાનો મતલબ એટલો જ કે આજની ભાગદોડભરી જિંદગીમાં વરસાદ માણવાનો અનુભવ દરેકનાં નસીબમાં નથી હોતો. કવિઓ-લખકોને તો ઠીક છે, ઓફીસ હોય નહિ અને ઘેર બેઠા કવિતા-લેખો લખવાનાં હોય એટલે એમને તો મજા જ પડેને વરસાદની.

બાકી મને કોઈ દુશ્મની નથી વરસાદ જોડે, મને પણ જયારે રવિવારની નવરાશ હોય અને ક્યાંય બહાર જવાનું ના હોય અને ઘરે હીંચકા પર બેઠા બેઠા ચા પીવા મળવાની હોય ત્યારે હું પણ ઈચ્છું કે વરસાદ આખો દિવસ આવે અને એની થોડી થોડી વાછંટ મને હીંચકા પર પલાળ્યા કરે... આ લેખ પણ વરસાદની મજા માણતાં માણતાં જ લખ્યો છે...અને અગાસીમાં વરસાદમાં નહાવાની મજા તો કૈક ઓર જ છે...

Wish List....

Nothing comes specific to write and then I found this tag at URNER.

It seems interesting and Its very simple... You just strike out the things from the list which you have not done yet...and the list goes as..... so lets find out... (I have added my comment in bracket.. I thought it would be more fun...)

1. Graduated high school. (ohh, this must be prepare by some college goer....I did Masters buddy)

2. Kissed someone. (I am married... :) .... )

3. Smoked a cigarette. (Not a regular though.... but enjoyed lot specially in chilly weather...)

4. Got so drunk you passed out. (Aha...)

5. Rode every ride at an amusement park. (Essel world... yahoooo...)

6. Collected something stupid.(Bus passes while I was in college...)

7. Gone to a rock concert.

8. Helped someone. (Be specific here....)

9. Gone fishing. (Naaa..not yet and Don't want to... but love to read book there...)

10. Watched four movies in one night. (Its easy.....)

11. Lied to someone.(its survival..... :) .... )

12. Snorted cocaine. (never but want to try at least... at least ones......)

13. Smoked weed. (again want to try at least... at least ones......)

14. Failed a subject. (Ahh.... Cricket match and exams came to-gather always.... luckily I failed in internals only)

15. Been in a car accident. (Just two days ago and it broke my car's number-plate but no one injure, ok..)

16. Been in a tornado.

17. Watched someone die. (It's really horrifying... aah riots...)

18. Been to a funeral.  (Its scary but peaceful place to visit)

19. Burned yourself. (I am learning cook....)

20. Run a marathon. (Want to... even Half marathon will do...)

21. Cried yourself to sleep. (aah... teenager love stories...)

22. Spent over 10,000 bucks in one day. ( I am married... on D day...)

23. Flown on an aero-plane. (Want to..... what a feeling...)

24. Cheated on someone. (Those were the good old college days....)

25. Been cheated on. (No idea..... So I am striking...)

26. Written a 10 page letter. (Make it 4 page and I did)

27. Gone skiing.(Ahh,,, love to... soon....)

28. Been sailing. (Ahh... love to... soon....)

29. Cut yourself. (No000o...... I love my life... you see the above list.. many things are pending...)

30. Had a best friend. (Many....)

31. Lost someone you loved. (Nope.. and I don't want to..)

32. Got into trouble for something you didn’t do. (Yup, At office..... :(.... )

33. Stolen a book from the library. (Nope, I read books only ones....)

34. Gone to a different country. (Ahh... It is long awaiting dream.. being in IT for 5 years, Its stigma... :( ..)

35. Watched the Harry Potter movies. (Well.... not much into comics and imaginations...)

36. Had an online diary. (You are reading it....)

37. Fired a gun. (Toy gun... yes...and video game gun too... :) ...)

38. Gambled in a casino. (Someday I will... and none other but at Last Vegas...)

39. Been in a school play. (There was no school plays in my school.. :( .... but ya, taken part in many quiz)

40. Been fired from a job. (Not directly but They didn't increased my salary so I left 2...)

41. Taken a lie detector test. (Nope... and I don't want, you see, I am married..)

42. Swam with dolphins. (Nope but I sweemed with many elephant at my society pool, Pune.. :)... )

43. Voted for someone on a reality TV show. (No... it's all crap....)

44. Written poetry. (yup... here only...)

45. Read more than 20 books a year. (Hopefully this year only n soon.. 16 already till June....)

46. Gone to Europe. (Love to...)

47. Loved someone you shouldn’t have. (Well... what to say....)

48. Used a coloring book over age 12. (yup... till 10th, I love drawing.. was one of the best in class)

49. Had a surgery.(one was immediately after birth only n then also one for eye...)

50. Had stitches. (yup...)

51. Taken a Taxi. (its too normal...)

52. Had more than 5 IM conversations going on at once. (its even more normal.... not now.. when in college)

53. Been in a fist fight. (aha....)

54. Suffered any form of abuse. (I lived in India only....)

55. Had a pet. (never want to....)

56. Petted a wild animal.(never got a chance... surely when at Gir during year end...)

57. Had your own credit card and bought something with it. (I told you this tag is created by some college goer..)

58. Dyed your hair.(Colored yes... dyed..abhi time hai mere dost...)

59. Got a tattoo...(yup.. n it was cool...don't have permanent..)

60. Had something pierced. (oouch... I still don't understand why Girls do!!!!!)

61. Got straight A’s. (many times...)

62. Known someone personally with HIV or AIDS. (Nope.... )

63. Taken pictures with a web cam. (Its old fashioned now...)

64. Lost something expensive.(hmmmmm...myself.. or my dreams.. want to be cricket or architect.. aah.. just kidding... but something expensive...only two pair of woodland shoes.... :) ....)

65. Gone to sleep with music on. (Many..many times…!!)

AAha... its fun... got to know that there r many things remaining and also.. after checking list.. realized that I have pretty normal life n all these years I m thinking that I m different from others.. uff... it called living in an own world.... 

I pass this tag on to all those who love doing TAGS..!! :) Enjoy and do leave me a comment if you are taking this up..!! :)

Have a great week..!! :)